Wednesday, April 10, 2013

A Birth Story - Part Three

Green Grandma has started telling birth stories every Thursday on her blog.  I volunteered to tell a condensed version of mine.  But I also wanted to write out what I remembered in detail, so that my kids could come back and read all about it later on in life.  If they're ever interested.  So here we have:


Part Three - Simon's Birth Story

21 months after we met Riley, I was 39 weeks pregnant again.  The third time around, I planned to have my baby at home.  I had a very healthy, normal pregnancy and had no reason to be worried about things going wrong.  All the same, the midwives has assured me that they had all the standard hospital equipment with them in case of emergency, and we were about 7 minutes away from the nearest hospital.  So we planned to stay home when I went into labour with #3.

Unfortunately, I didn't get the now-expected 4:00 am wake-up call this time.  We were up and getting ready to head to our Sunday morning church meeting.  The kids and I were dressed for church and Aaron was about to get ready when I started feeling “not-so-good.”  It was around 8:00 in the morning, one week before the EDD.  I started keep track of contractions and things moved along as expected.  While we waited for Grandma to arrive to take care of the younger kids, we had a little "we-can't-be-at-church" sing-along which I recorded.  I just love that this is what my house sounded like while I was in labour.

Having done this twice, once at home, I was very comfortable and at-ease.  I don't remember a whole lot from this day, because it went just as expected.  Grandma arrived (skipping church to be with us) to care for the younger two as I brought her next grand-child into the world.  We had a different midwife, Kelly, join us to help usher Simon into the world.  Once again I was walking up and down the stairs, bouncing on an exercise ball, and trying to find the best way to move to accomodate the pain.

Kelly finally broke my water to move things along when it was beneficial.  Just as last time, I had #3 about an hour later on that birthing stool.  Simon was born in our bedroom around 2:10 pm on November 27, weighing exactly 7 lbs.

The thing I remember most from my recovery this time is that going from two kids to three kids was so much easier than going from one kid to two kids.  The older two had built-in play-mates in each other, so I found that I had more time to spend resting and caring for Simon.  My mom came to help out for a week or two (as she did with the other two) and she had a chance to love on all three of them while being there to help me as well.  I truly appreciated having her around each time.



Read the rest here:
Part One - Luke's Birth Story
Part Two - Riley's Birth Story
Part Four - In Praise of Midwives

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

A Birth Story - Part Two

Green Grandma has started telling birth stories every Thursday on her blog.  I volunteered to tell a condensed version of mine.  But I also wanted to write out what I remembered in  detail, so that my kids could come back and read all about it later on in life.  If they're ever interested.  So here we have:

Black and White photos taken by my friend Moni,
who can be found blogging at The Momo Miles.

Part Two - Riley's Birth Story

20 months after Luke was born, I found myself in a very similar predicament. 

A month or so before my Estimated Due Date (EDD), our midwives had told us to be prepared for a home-birth.  Since I was only in labour for five hours the first time, it could go even quicker this time.  So we were ready.  We had everything on the list for a home-birth.  But we were still planning a hospital birth.

I was 39 weeks pregnant with #2, a girl this time.  There's something about 4 am...  I woke up just after 4:00 am feeling very much the same as I did with #1.  Only this time, I was still full from “all you can eat pasta” of the night before.  Once that left my stomach, I felt a bit better.

As with the last time, we called the midwife pager around 6:30 and said that we were in labour.  She told us to give it a half hour and see how things were going. 

So Aaron was once again on the phone with our midwife, Kristy, around 7:00 am, telling that this was full-blown labour.  She asked what we wanted to do, putting it to us this way, “If you go to the hospital, it will be in an ambulance because you could have this baby at any moment.  If you stay at home, I will be there in a few minutes and you can call if anything changes."  I did NOT want to move anywhere and was very happy to know that Kristy could be at my house shortly, so I said that I wanted to stay at home.

Within 30 minutes, my mother-in-law arrived (to care for our just-waking 20 month old boy) and Kristy arrived (to care for me.)  I had the freedom to walk around my house, choosing to go up and down stairs to speed up labour as necessary.  I seemed to be “transitioning” but not getting anywhere.  All that really meant to me was that my body was in a lot of pain but that baby wasn't working her way out yet.  Kristy offered to break the membrane, knowing that my body was ready and that it would speed things up.  I very readily agreed, so she did.  I was in labour another hour or so and got to use a birthing stool to deliver her.  It was so wonderful!  Aaron was sitting on a chair across from me and I was leaning into him for support as I pushed.  I had my lovely baby girl, weighing 7 lb 6 oz, around 10:20 am on Feb 12, 7 days before my EDD.



The first picture of our family of four
Grandma B, Grandma Cecil, Riley and Luke

Grandma and Grandpa B with Riley and Luke

 One of my favourite memories from this day is that as we sat on the couch, just an hour or two after our little girl entered the world, Aaron made breakfast for everyone.  We sat visiting, midwives (three of them by now), Grandma, and our family of four, over omelets and toast.  It was such a happy moment, one I will cherish, knowing how special and unique it was.

Her first beau, Grandpa B, with her first flower

Recovering from the delivery of my second child took more of a toll on me and I was so glad to once again be recovering at home.  The regular visits from the midwives were wonderful too.  They came, again, to check on us five times in the first week.

Read the rest here:
Part One - Luke's Birth Story
Part Three - Simon's Birth Story
Part Four - In Praise of Midwives

Monday, April 8, 2013

A Birth Story - Part One

Green Grandma has started telling birth stories every Thursday on her blog.  I volunteered to tell a condensed version of mine.  But I also wanted to write out what I remembered in  detail, so that my kids could come back and read all about it later on in life.  If they're ever interested.  So here we have:

Part One - Luke's Birth Story
When I found out I was pregnant with Luke, I read as much as I could to prepare myself. Somewhere around my third month, on my third time through “What to Expect When You're Expecting,” I actually read that teeny, tiny little paragraph about midwives.  Being in Ontario, I had no concern about the cost of an OB/GYN.  But being someone who had no idea what to expect, I liked the idea of a medical professional who would treat me as a person instead of a patient.  I found some local midwives and fell in love with them pretty quickly.  We got to know each other pretty well during our 30-45 minute long appointments. The midwives understood and supported my decision to have my baby in the hospital.  I felt SO well-cared for with them.  I was very assured and confident of my ability to get through this labour and delivery process. Until I got to pre-natal class.

A portion of our pre-natal class was designed to test our tolerance for pain.  Our husbands were to hold an ice cube to our wrist.  When I could no longer stand it, I had to tell him to stop.  We timed ourselves.  Of the four pregnant mamas in the room, I was the first to beg my husband to stop.  I like to tell this story because when we met up with the other couples in that room a year later, I discovered that I was the only one to deliver naturally, without pain medication.  I hate pain.  Unless there's a meaningful purpose to it.

But I'm getting ahead of myself.

So we were all set to have our baby.  I had taken my maternity leave two weeks before my Estimated Due Date (EDD) of June 20.  My sister came from 5 hours away to stay with me and massage my feet and help me if I happened to go into labour while she was there.  June 20 came and went.  I wasn't too worried.  The midwives had warned me that most first-time moms go 7-10 days overdue, and that the EDD really was just an estimation.  Some mamas are pregnant beyond 42 weeks they assured me.  Oh great.

Two days after my due date, I woke up early, around 4:30 am.  I felt like I was getting period cramps and had to go the bathroom.  A lot.  Once my intestines were mostly cleared, I tried to go back to sleep, to no avail.  I finally realized that I was having fairly steady contractions and we decided to call the midwives around 6:00 am.  Our beloved midwife, Kristy, said that since I was able to talk to her on the phone through the contractions, they weren't too strong and we should be fine to labour at home for a while longer.  My sister, Aaron and I started timing them, at Kristy's request, and noticed that they were coming every five minutes for 60-90 seconds.  We called her back at 6:30 am.  She said to try taking a bath to slow them down.  I ran the water and took a bath.  It did absolutely nothing for me. 

My contractions were getting stronger and lasting longer.  I had Aaron call Kristy back again just after 7:00 am.  After hearing the update she said to get out of the tub, get dressed and get to the hospital ASAP.  She'd meet us there but wouldn't get there before we did.  So she called ahead and told the nurses we were on our way.

I must interject that my sister was a trooper through all of this.  She was there when my water broke as I got out of the tub.  She was there when I vomited what I had eaten that morning.  She helped Aaron and I get through this first-time experience.  She dressed me and got me ready to go to the hospital.

Pain!  That's all I remember about that drive.  I was glad to finally get there, but did not like having to lie on that bed waiting for the Kristy to get there.  They strapped some monitor to my belly and said that everything looked good.  Kristy got there and “checked me.”  I was 8 cm dilated.  After a few more contractions I told her I wanted to try the birthing tub in the other room.  She said there probably wasn't enough time to fill it and checked me again.  10 cm!  Well, that was fast.

I pushed for maybe 20 or 30 minutes on the hospital bed and gave birth to a beautiful baby boy.  They gently, but quickly, wiped him off and handed him to me so I could cuddle with him.  About 30 minutes later, I delivered the placenta with no problems and they put a couple stitches in.  My 7lb 5 oz baby boy was born in a rush on June 22 at 9:33 am.

An hour or so after giving birth to Luke.
This was before the days of digital cameras. 
We didn't know we looked this awful or we would have done a retake
The rest of the family came to see our new baby while we were still at the hospital.  Great-Grandma Cecil got to meet him just an hour or so after he joined us.


Four generations, Luke, Daddy Aaron, Grandma Joyce, Great-Grandma Cecil

And then, just as soon as we got there, it seemed that we were leaving.  With midwives, their goal is to get you home and recovering where you are most comfortable.  We left the hospital 3.5 hours after Luke was born and had a very pleasant and easy recovery at home.  (Total time in the hospital, about five hours.)  Our midwives came to visit us in our home five times in that first week.  They were so reassuring and encouraging.
Best midwife ever, Kristy, with Luke at one of the home visits

We felt incredibly blessed to have had such an amazing experience with our first baby.

Wanda, snuggling with Luke

Aaron, doing what he and Luke did best

Read the rest here:
Part Two - Riley's Birth Story
Part Three - Simon's Birth Story
Part Four - In Praise of Midwives





Friday, April 5, 2013

Mommy

I have tears streaming down my eyes as I tap this out with one finger on my iPod. I have read something that has shown me, clearer than anything else, the beauty of being a parent.

Tonight I had to stop reading at page 64 of Kisses From Katie (the book, not the website.) Katie Davis, who has dedicated her life to serving the people of Uganda, has written in these first pages about the first few children she adopted in Uganda. These children spent years knowing dirt and filth and sorrow and abandonment and rejection and now - NOW - they have someone who cares for them, loving them because Jesus loves them, finding ways to fill their needs when to do so seems impossible. But it's not just the girls who call her "Mommy."


The store clerks and teachers call her Mommy. The doctors and nurses call her Mommy. The parents and grandparents call her Mommy. She is the one in that village who comforts and provides. She is the one who can clean and heal. It doesn't matter if she is their Mommy or not. She is the one they go to. And she is filled with love for them when she hears them calling her "Mommy." How much more must our Heavenly Father be filled with joy when we call on Him?

That is the beauty of being a parent. Seeing how much our children need and love us, unconditionally. Knowing that we can provide some of the comfort that they need. Delighting in the joy that we see around us. Experiencing the heartache. Witnessing bad decisions. And continuing to love. If we, as parents, feel this way, how much more must our Heavenly Father feel this way?

This is the beauty of being a parent.

Thursday, April 4, 2013

Bills, bills, bills


Have you seen Babes in Toyland?  Poor Annette...


This was one of my many favourite movie scenes as a kid.  As a grown up, I can relate.  I've been growing increasingly frustrated as "the price of milk and eggs and bread is rising everyday."

Yesterday, we received a notice stating that our internet rate from our current internet company (Provider A) was, once again, increasing.  In the past, we have chosen to stay with our provider because of the hassle of changing the email address associated with my business, The Cleaner Sweep.  But, as of March 2013, my sister is the sole operator of that business, so I don't need to maintain the email address for it anymore.  With that hindrance out of the way, Aaron and I decided to start looking around for better monthly rates.


We found a company (Provider B) that offers a monthly rate that is $15 lower than our current rate ($17 lower than the rate it is climbing to in June 2013).  So I called up Provider A to see if they could lower my rate.  I was hoping they'd give me the $15 off that is offered to new customers.  I didn't quite get that.

A gentleman offered me $5 off my current rate, which I could lock in for 12 months, giving me $7 off come June.  I asked him to note that on my account and I would call back after chatting with my husband.

Buckle your seat-belt; there's some simple math coming up.  Try to stay with me.


Aaron and I figured that at the old rate from Provider A ($51/mth), it would take us just over one year (12.5 months) to start saving money with Provider B (at $35/mth) because of the (approximately) $200 in start-up fees and new modem purchase.  With the new rate ($44/mth), it would be just under two years (22 months) before we started saving money. 

We decided that the hassle and uncertainty of how a new provider would work was not worth the switch, so we agreed to stay with Provider A for the reduced price. 

The best part was that the nice lady that I spoke with at the very end said "We appreciate having you as a customer.  Please feel free to call back again in 12 months to discuss your rate.  We'd like to keep you happy."

You just have to ask.

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Birth Sounds

Please don't get weirded out, thinking that I'm going to show you a video of  me, giving birth.  I'm not...

Fellow blogger, Green Grandma, has asked for some guest bloggers to share their birth stories.  That got me thinking about my kids and their early days...  Which got me digging around my picture files on my computer.  I came across this video and looked at the time stamp.  November 27, 2005, 9:33 AM.  My youngest was born about five hours later on November 27, 2005 at about 2:00 PM.

While this scenario was happening, the rest of the members of my church family were getting in their cars to meet for Sunday morning worship.  My family had dressed in their Sunday clothes and were ready to go, but I had decided that we needed to stay home so I could have a baby.  I had probably been in labour for about an hour at the point that this video was taken.

It is so sweet for me to see this and know that my kids have been singing songs about Jesus as long as they can remember.


Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Mawwiage

My kids have recently discovered the joy of The Princess Bride, so please excuse me while I quote it for a minute here...

Mawwiage, that bwessed event. That dream wiffin a dream.
...Then wuv, Twuuuuue wuv...

~ ~ ~ ~ ~
 

You know, you have to marry the right person.  Because that person is going to change you.  You will either harden against them or soften towards them, but you will be changed, one way or another.  So make sure they are the person you want to be the most influential in how you change.

I regularly feel incredibly blessed to have married someone who has changed me for the better. And I am very thankful to God for bringing Aaron and I together, and for giving me the grace to be willing to change alongside him. 




Life is more fun when you enjoy the person you're stuck with committed to, so it really is best to figure out how to live with each other.

And by "committed" I don't mean institutionalized.  
Marriage is fun.  Or at least it can be...  If you're each willing to change to accommodate the other.